The history, future, and ongoing tales of a boy, a girl, scraped knees & being in love.


only struggle begets true bliss

Don't get me wrong; everybody likes to watch a winner, to see the confident swagger that comes with a record to prove it.
But there is also a force of resistance to someone who you just come to EXPECT to win. 
How else can you explain how everyone (even New Yorkers) have a certain disdain for the Yankees?

Let's be honest… watching (insert hot male celebrity) always get the girl gets boring.

     I want to see Steve Buscemi's characters fall in love.
          And for it to be reciprocated.

The steps:
  -take sides with an underdog because you see yourself.
  -wait endlessly while they fail again and again.
  -when that ONE moment of serendipity and success comes, you REJOICE!

I'm not the nicest man, not the most charming. More importantly, not the most compatible with my wife. 
I grit my teeth and bite my tongue and yell and struggle through the bad times and the disagreements and
out-of-syncronicities…waiting for when we finish each other's sentences.

For when we communicate across the room in a glance.
For when that little encouraging phrase from her was the only difference between perseverance...
     ...and saying "f*ck it."
For picking up the phone before it rings, knowing she is on the other end of the line.
For saying "I know how you feel," and being right.

There is a special joy in that fleeting moment that anyone in a regular, 'easy' relationship will never feel
because they don't know what it is worth. They cannot appreciate the victory that comes with such a hard
struggle. And it is exactly why the highest highs come from the lowest lows.



  1. Knowing Nina, she wouldn't have her husband and life mate be any other way. And how else do you get the hot makeup sex if there's nothing to make up for? :P

  2. Love it.

    Mo and I are following this blog closely. We can't wait to see you guys.

    P.S. That means that we're planning a Chicago trip in our near future!